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She's Nice Though

Essays on Being Bad at Being Good
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She's Nice Though is a witty and insightful essay collection by Mia Mercado, exploring what it means to be 'nice,' 'polite,' and 'agreeable.' Mercado examines cultural expectations and the subtle performances behind social niceties, from the phenomenon of women dominating the ASMR market to the quirks of her own identity as an Asian American woman in the Midwest. Through sharp, humorous reflections, she reveals the illusions behind our 'good' intentions, social media apologies, and everyday social interactions, ultimately celebrating human flaws rather than shaming them.
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Ideal for readers interested in cultural criticism, social psychology, and contemporary essays on identity and politeness. Suitable for those who appreciate sharp humour and thoughtful reflections on societal expectations.

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AN NPR BOOK-OF-THE-DAY • A PUBLISHERS WEEKLY STAFF PICK • A NYLON MUST-READ • A FORTUNE NEW BOOK TO READ IN AUGUST

“And, at the center of it all, am I actually nice or am I just performing a role I think I’m expected to play?” Mia Mercado is a razor-sharp cultural critic and essayist known for her witty and hilarious dissections of the uncomfortable truths that rule our lives. In this thought-provoking collection of new essays, Mercado examines what it means to be “polite,” “agreeable,” and “nice.” She covers topics from the subtleties of the “Bad Bitch” and why women dominate the ASMR market, to what makes her dog an adorable little freak and how you know if you’re shy. This is a book about the unspoken trick mirror of our “good” intentions: the inherent performance of the social media apology, celebrating men when they do the bare minimum, and why we trust a Midwesterner to watch our stuff when we go pee.

Throughout, she ponders her identity as an Asian woman and asks what “nice” even means—and why anyone would want to be it. With writing that is as precise as it is profound, and cultural references that range from trash reality television to the New York Times Sunday-morning crossword puzzle, Mercado uncovers weird, long-overdue truths about our frailties and failings. In the end, she sees them not as a source of shame but as a cause for celebration. Filled with revelations that range from the silly to the serious, She’s Nice Though offers a mind-bending glimpse into the illusions and delusions of contemporary life—and reveals who we really are when no one is watching.

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"A sharp essay collection that celebrates our collective insecurities and failures." — New York Times Book Review

"Mercado interrogates the origins and edges of her own affability, probing how gender, race, and geography shape personality." — Poets & Writers

"In humorous, relatable essays, Mercado explores the limitations of being endlessly accommodating and polite, sharing perspectives on social media apologies, cultural expectations, and personal identity." — Shondaland

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ISBN: 9780063098510

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 13 October 2022

Country: United States

Imprint: HarperOne

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 21.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 374g

Pages: 224

About the Author

Mia Mercado is a writer whose work focuses on humor, identity, culture and the intersections between them. She is a staff writer for Bustle and has also been featured in The New Yorker, The New York Times, McSweeney's, Reductress, BUST, The American Bystander, Gizmodo, and The Hairpin.

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