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I Don't Want to Talk about it

Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
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I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real offers a compelling exploration of male depression, a hidden epidemic often masked by behaviours like workaholism and rage. Drawing on two decades of clinical experience, Real provides a hopeful pathway for men and their families to recognise, confront, and heal from depression, breaking cycles of pain and abuse.
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Ideal for men experiencing depression, their loved ones seeking understanding, and mental health professionals interested in masculinity and emotional wellbeing.

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A study of the hidden epidemic of male depression draws on case studies to examine the causes of the ailment and how men can heal themselves, repair relationships, and break the chain of depression.

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A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don't Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them.

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in menβ€”that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression's "un-manliness." Problems that we think of as typically maleβ€”difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behaviour, and rageβ€”are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children.

This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780684835396

Publisher: Prentice Hall (a Pearson Education company)

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 23 March 1998

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Prentice Hall & IBD

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 140.0mm

Height: 214.0mm

Weight: 354g

Pages: 384

About the Author

Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of Us, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage.

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