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Stop Sh*tting Yourself

15 Life Lessons That Might Help You Calm The F*ck Down
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'Fucking great book helped me calm the fuck down - well needed' SHAUN RYDER 'We bottle everything up, then we catastrophise and medicalise it all. But being human is about feeling a little pain, that's where the growth lies. Let's accept we'll all feel bad from... Read More
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In this rallying cry for a phlegmatic and fun brand of masculinity, Sam Delaney makes the case for a happier way of living.

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'Fucking great book helped me calm the fuck down - well needed' SHAUN RYDER

'We bottle everything up, then we catastrophise and medicalise it all. But being human is about feeling a little pain, that's where the growth lies. Let's accept we'll all feel bad from time to time and let's air that. If you're looking to inject a little healthy perspective into your life, this is a good place to start' IRVINE WELSH

'One great big deep breath of a book. A funny, honest, human antidote to "high performance" piffle' DANNY WALLACE

'Sam Delaney is a funny, wise and insightful writer, and this book will help lots of people' JOHANN HARI

Sam Delaney overdid it for many years. Work, ambition, competitiveness, booze and drugs defined his life until he started to realise that he was burnt out and exhausted by daft fantasies of being a 'better man.' He had always put himself under pressure to be everything at once: fun but intelligent, tough but sensitive, a dedicated father but an ambitious careerist. But what if there was another way? What if trying to be the perfect version of himself was doing him more harm than good?

In Stop Sh*tting Yourself, Sam dissects our obsession around hyper-productivity and high-performance living and - with his trademark straight-talking charm - offers a much-needed alternative perspective. Drawing on funny stories from his own life, he argues for the importance of sitting around in your pants doing nothing, taking working life with a pinch of salt, putting those impossible standards for yourself in the bin and focussing on the day-to-day things that make you content.

Learn why consistency isn't what it's built up to be; how process is a recipe for boredom; that male friendships in particular should be rooted in fun, not competitiveness; and why self-acceptance always trumps self-improvement.

After all, there's no point sh*tting yourself over nothing.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781408720271

Publisher: Little, Brown Book Group

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 27 February 2025

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Constable

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 30.0mm

Width: 138.0mm

Height: 218.0mm

Weight: 411g

Pages: 288

About the Author

Sam Delaney is a journalist and broadcaster whose work has featured in the Guardian, Telegraph and talkSPORT. He is former editor of Heat magazine. Sam also co-hosts the popular podcast Top Flight Time Machine. Since 2020 he has hosted The Reset, a podcast about men and mental health. He is the author of four previous books.

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