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Helping Children with Low Self-Esteem & Ruby and the Rubbish Bin offers a unique combination of a practical guidebook and a beautifully illustrated storybook. It supports adults in helping children aged 4-12 who struggle with feelings of low self-worth and unresolved emotions that impact their behaviour. Through the story of Ruby, a young girl who feels like rubbish and battles with self-hate, children learn the journey towards self-respect and friendship, aided by a caring friend named Dot.
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Ideal for teachers, parents, and professionals working with young children who display low self-esteem or emotional difficulties. Suitable for children aged 4-12, particularly those needing support to understand and manage feelings of inadequacy, bullying, and social isolation.

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A guidebook that helps children who: don't like themselves or feel there is something fundamentally wrong with them; have been deeply shamed; have received too much criticism or haven't been encouraged enough; and, let people treat them badly because they feel they don't deserve better.

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This practical guidebook, accompanied by a beautifully illustrated storybook, enables teachers, parents, and professionals to help children aged 4-12 connect with unresolved feelings affecting their behaviour.

Helping Children with Low Self-Esteem is a guidebook designed to assist children who:

  • don't like themselves or feel there is something fundamentally wrong with them
  • have been deeply shamed
  • have received too much criticism or haven't been encouraged enough
  • let people treat them badly because they feel they don't deserve better
  • do not accept praise or appreciation because they feel they don't deserve it
  • feel defeated by life, fundamentally unimportant, unwanted or unlovable
  • bully because they think they are worthless or think they are worthless because they are bullied
  • feel they don't belong or do not seek friends because they think no one would want to be their friend

Ruby and the Rubbish Bin is a story for children with low self-esteem. Ruby hates herself so much that she often feels more like a piece of rubbish than a little girl. Sometimes Ruby feels so miserable that she wants to sleep and sleep and never wake up again.

Then Ruby meets Dot and, over time, Dot helps Ruby move from self-hate to self-respect. After a very important dream, and with help from Dot, Ruby finds her voice and her anger, and stands up to the bullies. She makes new friends and knows what it's like to feel happy for the first time in her life.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780863884702

Publisher: Taylor & Francis Ltd

Format: Multiple-component retail product

Date Published: 01 January 1999

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Speechmark Publishing Ltd

Contributors:

  • Illustrated by Nicky Armstrong

Audience: Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Width: 210.0mm

Height: 297.0mm

Weight: 400g

Pages: 96

About the Author

Dr Margot Sunderland is Director of Education and Training at The Centre for Child Mental Health London, Senior Associate of the Royal College of Medicine and Child Psychotherapist with over thirty years’ experience of working with children and families. Dr Sunderland is the author of over twenty books in child mental health, which collectively have been translated into eighteen languages and published in twenty-four countries. Her books, which form the Helping Children with Feelings series are used as key therapeutic tools by child professionals all over the UK and abroad.

Nicky Armstrong holds an MA from the Slade School of Fine Art and a BA Hons in Theatre Design from the University of Central England. She is the principal artist at The London Art House and has illustrated over 20 books, which have been published in many countries. Nicky has also achieved major commissions nationally and internationally in mural work and fine art.

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