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Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other

Powerful Tools for Navigating a HighConflict Divorce
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Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers practical guidance for parents navigating the challenges of high-conflict divorce. This essential book provides strategies to manage intense emotions, overcome shame and blame, and establish a peaceful, loving environment for children. Grounded in dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting, it equips readers with tools to identify and break destructive conflict cycles, while promoting effective and healthy communication between co-parents.
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This book is ideal for parents undergoing or recovering from high-conflict separations who seek practical skills to support their children’s well-being and transition to cooperative co-parenting.

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Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers practical tips and strategies to help parents manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for their children using dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting.

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Hate your ex but love your kids? If so, this much-needed guide offers practical tips and strategies to help you manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for your children.

Let's face it—divorce is tough. In a high-conflict divorce, your ex may attempt to undermine your relationship with your children, blame you for the failed marriage, and be hostile towards you in general. Unfortunately, this negativity can affect your kids, too. You need to break the cycle of rage and conflict now, for their sake. This book can help.

Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers powerful skills based in dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting to help you both take control of your emotions. You'll develop tools to help you identify cycles of conflict, as well as strategies for breaking these cycles before they get out of hand. You'll also learn to effectively communicate with one another and your children in a way that is healthy and productive.

If you're going through a high-conflict divorce, you need real tools to help you manage the pain and anger that can follow. This book will give you the skills you need to go from ex to co-parent, and start rebuilding your—and your child's—life.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781626259041

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 28 June 2018

Country: United States

Imprint: New Harbinger Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 11.0mm

Width: 230.0mm

Height: 156.0mm

Weight: 278g

Pages: 192

About the Author

Lauren J. Behrman (Author)
Lauren J. Behrman, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, mediator, collaborative divorce professional, and parent coordinator in private practice in Westchester, NY, with offices in White Plains and Katonah, and Midtown Manhattan, providing counseling and psychotherapy for children, adolescents, and adults struggling in life and relationships.

Jeffrey Zimmerman (Author)
Jeffrey Zimmerman, PhD, ABPP, is president and cofounder of Beacon Behavioral Services in Avon, CT, and the PEACE Program (Parents Equally Allied to Co-parent Effectively), which is a specialized service for high conflict divorced and divorcing parents. He is a member of the American Psychological Association and a member, past president, and fellow of the Connecticut Psychological Association. He is also a diplomate and founding fellow of the American College of Advanced Practice Psychologists. He is on the clinical faculty of the University of Connecticut Health Center. Zimmerman is also coauthor of The Co-Parenting Survival Guide.

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