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Validation

The New Psychology of Influence
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Unlock the secret to true and lasting change 'A crash course in the most important skills for forging connection and fuelling change.' – ADAM GRANT 'Profound, important, compassionate, Validation took my breath away.' – AMY EDMONDSON We all spend a huge amount of time trying to... Read More
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A new and lasting approach to changing others and ourselves, from a world-leading psychologist at Stanford University

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Unlock the secret to true and lasting change

'A crash course in the most important skills for forging connection and fuelling change.' – ADAM GRANT

'Profound, important, compassionate, Validation took my breath away.' – AMY EDMONDSON

We all spend a huge amount of time trying to get people to listen to us, and despite our best efforts, we often fail. But what if the secret to influencing others was in first accepting them?

This is known as validation: the act of showing someone that you understand their experience and accept it as valid.

As both a means and an end, validation skills are proven to impact five key areas of our life: enhancing our relationships, de-escalating conflict, increasing our ability to drive behaviour change, influencing growth in others, and developing a stronger connection to self. In this groundbreaking book, Stanford University psychologist Caroline Fleck explains why validation is a catalyst for transformation and shares her step-by-step framework to put this powerful skillset into practice.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781398713161

Publisher: Orion Publishing Co

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 20 February 2025

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Orion Spring

Audience: General / adult, Tertiary education, Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Width: 153.0mm

Height: 234.0mm

Weight: 400g

Pages: 320

About the Author

Dr Caroline Fleck is a licensed psychologist, Adjunct Clinical Instructor at Stanford University, and consultant. She received her doctorate in Psychology & Neuroscience from Duke University and holds a B.A. in English and Psychology from the University of Michigan. Dr. Fleck is an expert in evidence-based treatments for individuals, couples, and parents, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). She is renowned for her ability to help people make critical but challenging changes and is one of Silicon Valley's most sought-after psychotherapists.

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