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The Identity Reset

A Guide to Discovering Yourself After Loss, Change, and Survival
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No one prepares you for losing the version of yourself that loss, trauma, and major life changes took. This book helps you discover who you are when life rewrites your identity. The Identity Reset: A Guide to Discovering Yourself After Loss, Change, and Survival is a... Read More
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No one prepares you for losing the version of yourself that loss, trauma, and major life changes took. This book helps you discover who you are when life rewrites your identity.

The Identity Reset: A Guide to Discovering Yourself After Loss, Change, and Survival is a lifeline for those navigating the difficult in-betweenβ€”when your past self no longer fits, and the future feels uncertain and unrecognizable.

For some, identity loss begins with what was taken. For others, it starts with what was never given: stability, affirmation, belonging, or the safety that trauma disrupted. And when the people, roles, or routines that shaped your life have died, it changes you. Author Ashley Olivia Nelson, a loss and trauma survivor, shows that discovering who you are isn't about β€œmoving on”—it's about moving differently, without shame, pressure, or the need to perform.

This book helps you name what's missing, understand how you've changed, and gently mend who you areβ€”without minimizing what happened to you. As an identity and grief specialist, Ashley Olivia Nelson offers:

  • Finding the words for the invisible losses that shaped you
  • Granting yourself permission to grieve and explore who you are now
  • Steps to ease overwhelm and build emotional capacity
  • Choosing relationships that truly accept you

You'll walk away with more than validationβ€”you'll leave with direction. Whether you're grieving who you were or who you never got to be, The Identity Reset offers soul-tending reflection and clear, heartfelt insight.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781394337309

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 05 May 2026

Country: United States

Imprint: Jossey-Bass Inc.,U.S.

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Weight: 250g

Pages: 288

About the Author

ASHLEY OLIVIA NELSON is the founder of Learning About Grief, an organization that has served over 30,000 people across more than 50 countries. She offers grief care through an identity-centered lens, helping individuals navigate loss and major life transitions. Since 2013, she has worked across grief and identity care in healthcare, mental health, life insurance, and the funeral care industries. A two-time widow and informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, Ashley brings both professional insight and lived experience to those facing their most vulnerable moments. Her work has been featured in POPSUGAR, Marie Claire, Shape, and Next Avenue.

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