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Does My Child Need Me to Lead or to Follow?

A Radically Simple Way to Parent Children from Infancy Through Age 6
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You love your child. But sometimes you just don’t understand what’s going on with them. Young children can’t yet put their feelings into words. Instead, they show what’s going on through their behaviour, often in ways that are completely incomprehensible to adults. You want to do... Read More
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A #1 internationally bestselling guide by a longtime developmental psychologist whose radically simple guidance has already helped tens of thousands of parents better understand and raise their children

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You love your child. But sometimes you just don’t understand what’s going on with them. Young children can’t yet put their feelings into words. Instead, they show what’s going on through their behaviour, often in ways that are completely incomprehensible to adults. You want to do everything right, but sometimes you just don’t know what your child needs or what they’re trying to tell you.

Your child has seemingly inexplicable tantrums—and nothing calms them down.

Your child doesn’t listen to you—even though you ask nicely.

You don’t know whether to comfort, set boundaries, or wait it out.

You feel like your child doesn’t understand you—and vice versa.

Child psychology expert Claudia Schwarzlmüller presents a simple but profoundly helpful method for dealing with such situations—predicated on your knowing when to lead your child and when, instead, to follow their lead. Identifying these moments—and responding accordingly—is the key to a balanced parenting style that minimises outbursts and helps your child’s development from infancy through age six.

Does My Child Need Me to Lead or to Follow? tracks the development of a fictionalised child named Alex from infancy through age six, guiding you through dozens of situations that will help you to instantly recognise what your child needs at that moment—because you’ll understand the underlying needs in their behaviour.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9798893031065

Publisher: The Experiment LLC

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 07 April 2026

Country: United States

Imprint: The Experiment LLC

Contributors:

  • Translated by Elisabeth Lauffer

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 18.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 370g

Pages: 272

About the Author

Claudia Schwarzlmüller is a child psychologist who has been working with parents for over twenty years. The original edition of this book is a #1 bestseller in Germany and is being published in several other territories. Elizabeth Lauffer is a German-English literary translator based in the US. She has also translated Does My Child Need Me to Lead or to Follow? by Claudia Schwarzlmüller for The Experiment.

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