Choosing Us

Real therapy sessions reveal practical strategies for couples seeking deeper connection

Couples therapy works, with approximately 70% of couples experiencing measurable improvements. Yet cost and access barriers prevent many from getting help. Choosing Us: Stories and Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage from Inside the Therapy Room brings the therapy experience directly to readers through the stories of three couples navigating conflict resolution, communication breakdowns, trust issues, and infidelity under the guidance of therapist Jonathan Van Viegen.

Each chapter presents a raw, emotional therapy session vignette that illuminates common relationship challenges. These stories are paired with prescriptive content and analysis, giving readers actionable strategies they can implement immediately. Van Viegen's contrarian approach challenges mainstream pop-psychology, offering fresh perspectives on relationship dynamics drawn from his years of clinical work and his popular Instagram content reaching fifteen million views monthly.

Readers will also find:

• Practical communication techniques for resolving conflicts without escalation or emotional withdrawal from your partner
• Strategies for rebuilding trust after betrayal and creating stronger foundations for lasting intimacy and connection
• Tools to identify relationship red flags early and address underlying issues before they become destructive patterns
• Guidance on feeling chosen and cherished through specific behaviours and conversations that demonstrate genuine commitment
• Direct, honest advice that cuts through generic self-help platitudes to address real relationship struggles couples face

Choosing Us serves married couples aged thirty to fifty-five seeking guidance on communication, conflict resolution, and trust. It also helps single individuals preparing for healthy future relationships and those rebuilding after divorce who want to avoid repeating past patterns.