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Becoming a Man

On courage, decency and character: 52 letters to young men
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A practical, funny, uplifting, and inspiring collection of letters for Australian young men on how to become the kind of men they want to be. When Julia Baird's son turned 16, and the internet was rumbling with talk of the manosphere, she decided to ask a... Read More
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A practical, funny, uplifting, and inspiring collection of letters for Australian young men on how to become the kind of men they want to be.

When Julia Baird's son turned 16, and the internet was rumbling with talk of the manosphere, she decided to ask a handful of family and friends to write a letter to him about what it means to be a good man. The response was overwhelming; her son Sam read them in a three-hour burst. Now inspired by the sincere, open, funny, and wise letters they wrote, Julia, together with Sam, has collected letters, thoughts, and advice from over sixty men on what it means to be, or become a man.

Knowing there are no easy solutions or flawless role models, each of these men has written from the heart, hoping to spark conversation or be given the advice they never were. From writers and thinkers to boxers and cricketers, from journalists to musicians, former politicians and prisoners to farmers, these men have a broad, idiosyncratic, and diverse outlookβ€”sometimes funny, sometimes very moving, sometimes practical, but always thought-provoking. They write about fathers and mentors, sex and love, friendships and families, their own fears, shortcomings and mistakes, and the passions and practices that have sustained them.

Becoming a Man is the perfect gift for any young manβ€”or man of any ageβ€”designed to be dipped in and out of, to spark conversations about the men who we most admire and inspire us, and why.

A proportion of the royalties will go towards the Reach Foundation www.reach.org.au

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781460770375

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers (Australia) Pty Ltd

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 27 October 2026

Country: Australia

Imprint: HarperCollins Publishers (Australia) Pty Ltd

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Weight: 300g

Pages: 208

About the Author

Julia Baird is a Sydney-based author and journalist. She writes columns for the Sydney Morning Herald, The Age and the ABC. She is a former co-host of The Drum on ABC TV, senior editor of Newsweek in New York, Joan Shorenstein Fellow at the Kennedy School at Harvard University, and op-ed contributor for the New York Times and the Philadelphia Inquirer. Her first book, Media Tarts, was based on her PhD in History about the portrayal of female politicians. Victoria, her biography of Queen Victoria, was published globally to critical acclaim and was one of the New York Times' top ten books of 2016. Her third book, Phosphorescence, was a multi-award-winning international bestseller. Bright Shining was shortlisted for the Australian Book Industry Award (ABIA) for Non-Fiction Book of the Year. Julia lives near the sea with her two children and an abnormally large dog.

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