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This Messy, Gorgeous Love

A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership
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Partnership is rough. In This Messy, Gorgeous Love, married Buddhist teachers nico and devon hase help readers thrive in long-term relationships, well after the honeymoon shine has faded. This nuts-and-bolts guide offers a pathway to deep intimacy in the real world, where partnership is difficult but... Read More
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A candid Buddhist guide to thriving in messy, real-world love.

A candid Buddhist guide to thriving in messy, real-world love.

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Partnership is rough. In This Messy, Gorgeous Love, married Buddhist teachers nico and devon hase help readers thrive in long-term relationships, well after the honeymoon shine has faded. This nuts-and-bolts guide offers a pathway to deep intimacy in the real world, where partnership is difficult but genuinely worth it.

"If you're struggling, you can use that struggle to open your heart and connect with your partner," write nico and devon in this refreshingly candid guide. Through heartfelt guidance—complete with practices, exercises, and reflections—readers will learn to:

  • Face relationship challenges with presence instead of perfectionism
  • Develop meditative skills to hold emotions with awareness
  • Communicate effectively during inevitable ups and downs
  • Get real without losing connection
  • Find each other again and again

Instead of chasing an idealized relationship, "fixing" their partner, or losing themselves, readers will discover how their current committed relationship can become a vehicle for opening their heart, clarifying their mind, and awakening to deeper truths. This book isn't about everlasting happiness—it's about building something even better: a partnership where you can be happy in love, thrive in conflict, and have honest fun together, all while embracing the beautiful mess that makes your connection uniquely yours.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781649634375

Publisher: Sounds True Inc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 18 May 2026

Country: United States

Imprint: Sounds True Inc

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 154.0mm

Height: 233.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 256

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Health & Wellness Non-Fiction Parenting & Family Self-Help & Personal Development

About the Author

nico and devon hase are married Buddhist teachers who help others blossom in the beautiful challenge of long-term romance. nico lived in a monastery for six years before earning a PhD in counseling psychology. devon teaches at Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other meditation centers. Coauthors of How Not to Be a Hot Mess, they live in a converted van named "Chanda"-experiencing firsthand the rocky terrain of partnership in close quarters. For more, visit devonandnicohase.com.

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