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Name: Better Love
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SKU: 9780008772321
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Understand Your Dating Patterns, Change Your Choices, and Find Your Person

By Dr Jess Carbino

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Unconventional advice on how to make dating apps work for you by the former in-house sociologist at Tinder and Bumble. Modern dating isn’t broken, but the way we approach it is. We curate, optimise, swipe and second guess – yet meaningful connections feel further away than... Read More

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Unconventional advice on how to make dating apps work for you by the former in-house sociologist at Tinder and Bumble.

A Modern Self-Help Guide to Dating Apps for Millennials and Gen Z

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Unconventional advice on how to make dating apps work for you by the former in-house sociologist at Tinder and Bumble.

Modern dating isn’t broken, but the way we approach it is. We curate, optimise, swipe and second guess – yet meaningful connections feel further away than ever.

In Better Love, sociologist and psychologist Dr Jess Carbino offers a smarter way forward. Drawing on research-backed behavioural science and her firsthand experience inside Tinder and Bumble, she reveals what drives common habits on dating apps, how to be aware of how it affects us and how to use that knowledge to better our online dating experiences.

Blending research with practical tools, Carbino offers advice on how to:

Prevent dating app burnout
Challenge the illusion of choice
Utilise thin slicing
Handle and overcome rejection
Understand how our sense of self shapes our connections.

This isn’t a book about landing a partner at any cost. Smart, science-backed and practical, Better Love is a guide to building internal fulfilment so that the relationships you choose are grounded, mutual and lasting.

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ISBN: 9780008772321

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 11 February 2027

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Thorsons

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 21.0mm

Width: 135.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 270g

Pages: 208

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About the Author

Dr Jess Carbino is a relationship and online dating expert and former sociologist for Tinder and Bumble, where she led research for the two dating app companies. She has conducted hundreds of focus groups across the world and analysed hundreds of thousands of profiles. Dr Jess received her PhD in Sociology from UCLA. She lives in New York, USA, with her family.

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