{"title":"Margalis Fjelstad","description":"\u003cp\u003eMargalis Fjelstad offers compassionate and insightful guidance for those navigating the challenges of relationships affected by narcissism and borderline personality traits. Her books provide practical strategies for healing, setting boundaries, and fostering emotional resilience in difficult family dynamics.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eRooted in psychology and personal development, Fjelstad’s work supports readers seeking empowerment and healthier connections, particularly in the realms of caregiving, parenting, and self-care. These thoughtful titles resonate deeply with anyone striving to reclaim their well-being.\u003c\/p\u003e","products":[{"product_id":"healing-from-a-narcissistic-relationship-by-margalis-fjelstad-9781538136652","title":"Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship","description":"\u003cdiv class=\"book-description\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen a relationship with a narcissist ends, the caretaking partner is often left confused, deeply hurt, and often still emotionally connected, while the narcissist seems to easily move on to the next relationship. \u003cem\u003eHealing from a Narcissistic Relationship\u003c\/em\u003e offers guidance about what to expect as the relationship unravels and how to cope with the fallout. It also helps the reader learn to truly disengage and move through the grief process.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003ePresenting techniques for healing and rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence, this book offers a guide to developing emotional strength and encourages forgiveness and reconciliation with the past. It shows the reader how to increase emotional self-protections, quit caretaking in relationships, and become more independent and self-loving.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eUsing real stories, Margalis Fjelstad offers a process of healing that can direct the reader away from former patterns of inequitable relationships and toward loving, caring connections that can truly grow healthfully and flourish. It shows that ending a relationship with a narcissist may be the best thing that ever happened.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Bloomsbury Publishing PTY Ltd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46868663271660,"sku":"9781538136652","price":66.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0705\/7784\/8556\/files\/17530873482735.jpg?v=1759764620"},{"product_id":"raising-resilient-children-with-a-borderline-or-narcissistic-parent-by-jean-mcbride-9781538127636","title":"Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent","description":"\u003cdiv class=\"book-description\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBeing partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors show readers how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eLife in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviours. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eRaising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent\u003c\/em\u003e offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy-to-follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eInstead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members. Supported by current research in neuroscience, mindfulness, and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eIt starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eUsing their years of experience, the authors present ideas for staying together as well as knowing when to leave the relationship and how best to do that. 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This compromises the Caretaker’s self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eThe book examines the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretakers how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle—with or without the Borderline or Narcissistic partner or family member. 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