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She posits that the very thing which ignited our relationships — raw, unadulterated lust — is usually the first casualty in the pursuit of long-term commitment.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eDetermined to bridge the gap between the erotic and the domestic, Perel offers insightful perspectives and practical advice. She reveals why the principles of democracy and equality, which serve us so well in our social institutions, can dampen the flames of desire in our personal lives. Through this exploration, Perel advocates for embracing playfulness, cultivating mystery, and permitting a degree of uncertainty within relationships to reignite passion.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eMating in Captivity\u003c\/i\u003e is a provocative and thought-provoking read that urges couples to question their assumptions about love and desire. 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Esteemed relationship therapist Esther Perel invites readers to delve deep into the reasons behind why people cheat, the emotional impacts of betrayal, and the potential for growth and transformation in the aftermath of an affair. By examining personal stories, Perel challenges the conventional perception of infidelity as an unforgivable act and considers it as an opportunity for introspection and renewal.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e Bestseller\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003eIs there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Can one truly love more than one person at a time? Why do people engage in infidelity? Can an affair ever strengthen a relationship? 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